How do I handle family members who want to visit with their pet, but the grandkids have allergies?
November 17th, 2006 by admin
KEVIN H asked:
What is the polite way to convince them not to bring the pet?
Good feedback…ooh, they do know about the allergies but think their pet doesn’t cause allergies..it’s any pet’s dander unfortunately. I have also kept our pets outside for over a year now!
What is the polite way to convince them not to bring the pet?
Good feedback…ooh, they do know about the allergies but think their pet doesn’t cause allergies..it’s any pet’s dander unfortunately. I have also kept our pets outside for over a year now!
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November 18th, 2006 at 3:15 am
Politely tell them the kids are allergic. If they can’t find a suitable kennel in their home location, you’ll find them one when you visit.
November 18th, 2006 at 5:36 pm
you just tell them straight up that the grandkids are allergic don’t bring their pets!!
November 21st, 2006 at 11:32 am
Honesty is the best policy. If grandparents are upset about children’s allergies and are more concerned about their pet, then I have to question motives. Perhaps you can find a local boarding location nearby where they can house their pet while they visit. This is also why a lot of people travel in RVs — they don’t have to worry about finding hotels that accept pets or inconvenience relatives.
November 22nd, 2006 at 9:14 am
Easy be honest and tell them the truth…Your an adult, so act like one and be honest…
November 24th, 2006 at 3:39 am
If they insist on bringing their pets with them even after telling them of your childrens allergies, tell them to bring a kennel ( those big pet carrier boxes) with them so their pets can be left outside their entire visit. Then ask them why they put their pets above the well being of your children.
November 26th, 2006 at 2:05 am
tell them they are welcome and you have a nice spot in the back yard for there dog,cat or bird.
November 28th, 2006 at 6:15 pm
Something like:
Oh! Don’t forget about the kids being allergic to your pets so you need to make arrangements. We don’t want to spend part of the visit in the Emergency Room do we? (add a chuckle to keep it light-hearted)
Just keep in mind that your children’s comfort and health is more important than a pet going on vacation… that will keep you strong in your delivery!
December 1st, 2006 at 8:09 am
Just tell them. “I’m sorry, but the grandkids are badly allergic, so I’d appreciate if you could either leave your pet at home or find a kennel here.” There’s no way that a family member would refuse, and if they still do, don’t let them visit anymore.
December 3rd, 2006 at 11:18 pm
Explain the situation to them. “I’m very sorry but I have to ask you not to bring your pets with you when you visit. My grandkids have allergies.” They would be very rude to not agree to your request. Kids’ rights come before animals’ right. I would refuse to let the pets come in if they still brought them.
December 5th, 2006 at 1:49 pm
tell them they can’t visit if they can’t respect your wishes. whats more important visiting gr.kids or their pet that most likely causes allergies just like the rest of the pets.
December 8th, 2006 at 7:03 pm
I am highly allergic to cats. have family members who have them told them I cannot come over unless cats are put away and place is sprayed with Lysol and really clean….they did not do this I almost died. I ended up in the ER for several hours and almost admitted still my air started coming up. Tell them it could be a death warrant for your kids.
December 11th, 2006 at 11:02 am
get rid of the grandkids.
December 13th, 2006 at 4:55 am
Tell them up front that your grandchildren have allergies and you cannot allow animals in the house. If they argue or say anything then just tell them…Im sorry it has to be this way for their health.
December 15th, 2006 at 9:13 pm
The grandkids should come first. If they insist on bringing the pet, scout out some good kennels or hotels, inns, etc. that let pets stay. Pass the info on to the family members.
December 18th, 2006 at 7:28 pm
It’s your house, so put your foot down. If your grandkids are allergic, then make it your priority to let them know their pets are not welcome.
Don’t let someone else make the rules in your home. Take a stand, and be assertive!
GOOD LUCK!
December 19th, 2006 at 8:52 pm
I know how you feel. my sister always wants to bring her dogs to every ones house. My mom tells her nicely no I do not wish you to bring the dogs. It is your house and let the family know that the kids have allergies and you wish that they will respect you and your wishes not to bring pets to your home.
December 22nd, 2006 at 12:58 am
Tell them to find somewhere else for the animals.
December 24th, 2006 at 1:38 pm
ok you may have to just put your foot down……. say NO pets and that is it……. this is a matter of health for you children….. I, as a grand parent would NEVER endanger my grand child ….. you make it clear that the pet is NOT allowed in the house….. they can put it out with your own pets, in a portable kennel in the garage or kennel it with a vet near you or at their home or that friends can keep it for them…… they have choices for the pet…….. dont give them a choice about YOUR childrens health……..if they know about the allergies already and still refuse to leave the pet at home or elsewhere, that tells me that polite time may have passed you by……or they also have the choice of staying at a hotel and visiting with you and leaving the pet there…….. God bless
December 27th, 2006 at 11:17 pm
Don’t let them visit if they don’t respect ur household. Be honest tell them if they are good family they will understand. Or maybe they just wanna get on ur nerves my family does that stuff to me.
December 30th, 2006 at 6:06 pm
Just tell them, straigt up… Junior is allergic. Leave the mutt at home. And…wipe the fur off yer drawers before you plop yer fat a$$ on my new sofa.
December 31st, 2006 at 9:47 pm
remind them again about how severe the childs allergies are, tell them that your own pets are not allowed in the house fro obvious reasons and that you would be glad to give them the name of a local pet boarder they can use while visiting so ” rover” will be close by
January 3rd, 2007 at 1:18 pm
pet dander is pet dander. If they have there own children then they would want the exact thing as you. If your allergic it’s not just to 1 or 2 breeds it’s all. I worked at an allergist who patient a decided she could have a mexican hairless dog but could not figure out why she was still having allergy symptoms. My point of this all is if you know they are allergic and the other family does to then that needs to be respected. If they don’t honor your wishes then maybe you need to see them in a public place where animals are not allowed.
January 6th, 2007 at 7:49 am
just tell them in a polite way that the kids are allergic to pets they will understand if they, your kids well -being should come first
January 8th, 2007 at 1:38 am
i have a 13 yr.old cat and 9yr.old dog but the kid’s have to come first have them put them in a kennel untill they leave,they can go visit them,alot of folks pets are their kid;s but they would leave them or stay at home
January 8th, 2007 at 8:18 pm
that’s like my children grandfather when i said to him that milk causes his asthma to flare up but in turn he told me that he have six children so he knows what he is doing, all i can say is that after asking them nicely to respect your wishes and if they don’t then you need to put them on a band that is what i did and eventually they got the picture lose the pet or don’t see the grandchild be very assertive
January 9th, 2007 at 10:39 pm
Tell them that if Fido isn’t left at home, then they’re not coming. Obviously, you’ve tried being polite, and that’s just not working. It’s time that you put your foot down. Your grandkids’ health comes first, and if they can’t accept that, then they shouldn’t be allowed to be welcome in your home. What kind of family members are they if they can’t respect your grandkids, who are family, too?!?!?!?