How can I help my boyfriend not be ashamed of his asthma?
February 3rd, 2005 by admin
Crystal H asked:
My boyfriend had an asthma attack while we were in bed together and now he’s moved into the spare room because he says hes too embarrassed and worried it will happen again. What can I say to him to get him back?
My boyfriend had an asthma attack while we were in bed together and now he’s moved into the spare room because he says hes too embarrassed and worried it will happen again. What can I say to him to get him back?
- Posted in Asthma
February 4th, 2005 at 12:46 pm
Tell him you don’t care.
Also, get him to check he’s taking all his preventers correctly. Maybe he needs a dose adjustment, so should go & get a health review.
February 7th, 2005 at 5:08 pm
its a medical condition. I would tell him that you completely understand that its normal for these things to happen. Ask him why hes embarressed? If you were in the same bed together than you should be able to poop with the door open. do you get what im sayin??
February 8th, 2005 at 10:54 am
climb into his bed with him - move into the spare bedroom. when he see’s you must be with him - he’ll feel better
February 8th, 2005 at 12:46 pm
Ouch! I feel for him. He needs to get his asthma under contol so he can help prevent such attacks. However, make sure he uses his inhaler before messing around!! Otherwise, he needs to man up and get back to you.
February 9th, 2005 at 1:30 am
There are muscle bound sports jocks with asthma. He just needs to be on the right medication. Two puffs from an Atrovent Inhaler before popping into bed would probably do the trick. (Get rid of the down pillows)
I think sex would be the perfect “respiratory rehab program”
Time to visit the doctor and get squared away. Diabetes, Hypertensives, etc. etc. have to take their medicine. Might be another “real reason”????
February 9th, 2005 at 5:16 am
Take him to a Chiropractor. Let them know he has Asthma and have them do the adjustment for asthma. He will be much less likely to have an attack after the treatment. I would recommend that he do this 1 time a month.
Also he needs oil of oregano. You can buy it at the health food store. 3 drops under the tongue 3 times a day for the first week, then 1 drop 3 times a day for he next week, and 1 drop a day for the next week, to a drop every other day and then a drop every third day. At this point he will only need to take 3 drops before working out/ playing sports/ or being around that which he has allergic reactions that cause him to have an attack. I know pharmacist who swear by the oil of oregano.
See the attached sites for more info. Also electro- acupuncture is great for allergy related asthma
February 9th, 2005 at 11:31 pm
Is he diagnosed and on meds? Asthma attacks can be controlled. Let him know this. Also don’t be afraid when he has one. Reassurance and understanding goes a long way. He can’t control it but Singulair is for help in controlling asthma attacks and he should have a rescue inhaler for times when he needs it. It can be live saving. I know………I have asthma. I hope he is sleeping on two pillows or has his head elevated as this helps with breathing. You can help too by making sure you have hypoallergenic pillow cases and a bed covering. Also vacuum the mattress as often as possible and any carpet or drapes or dust collectors. Dust mites are always in these places. They live off of dead skin that we constantly shed. I know that’s disgusting, but true.
Tell him that you want to understand his condition and help him through it. Try to tell him not to worry and that it doesn’t frighten you (even if it does). Let him know the info I gave you so maybe his symptoms won’t be so bad. Air conditioning is very important in the warmer weather as is a cool mist humidifier when the heat is on. If he knows you have some knowledge, he may be more willing to talk to you about it. Tell him there is nothing to be embarassed about and you love him just the way he is. Also, if he isn’t under a doctor’s care, make sure he is and gets the right meds. The stress and worrying of how you are taking this and his embarassment can lead to an attack. Tell him that you support him and want him to come back to the same room. Assure him that it won’t bother you and that you are there to help…..as a couple should. Let him know how much you miss him and you miss the closeness. Whatever the problem is……the two of you will work it out. Good luck and I hope he can get past this.
February 13th, 2005 at 9:05 am
Oh i have my boyfriend with asthma too… You had to talk about this with him and explain that he can’t be ashamed of asthma and you always will be there for helping him.
Good luck….!!!
February 14th, 2005 at 6:30 am
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February 14th, 2005 at 10:39 pm
If he can’t be with you when he needs you like an asthma attack, what is going to happen if he has something more severe, is it just because He Could not control it, most guys want to control everything. Sounds pretty stupid to me